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[Reign in Acai]

If only it said gnats, I'd be sitting here in tears.

[Disgustipated]

I've had about 70 shits in the last 24 hours. My mouth tastes like my arse smells. Fuck this.

[lurch70]

hahahahh .... dehydration from shits suck.

it's the mighty riff night at the lurch casa ... latest Necros Christos and Vallenfyre on repeat ... fuck these albums have some serious crunch

[ChaosLee]

I say we do this shit

http://www.doctortipster.com/6952-du...-millions.html

[lurch70]

this promises to be an interesting journey

http://www.npr.org/blogs/pictureshow...ow?sc=fb&cc=fp

[Krilons Resa]

ATTN: Lurch, Dorian, & Hellmike Motorbike

What did you fellas do when your children hit the 6 month mark and were still waking throughout the night? Most times it's just for us to put the pacifier back in his mouth; he has become very dependent on it to soothe himself to sleep. Did your children use a pacifier to soothe? Were you lucky and not have a problem at all with this stuff?

My wife holds him with pacifier in mouth very night until he falls asleep, puts him to bed, then he wakes up various times throughout the night for us to just put the damn thing back in his mouth. After talking to a few friends who had success with the Ferber Method, we are considering going that route but am still unsure. It's probably the same thing our parents did to all of us but without the interval check-ins.

Hook a brotha up with some advice.

[Thanatopsis123]

Don't pacifiers fuck up kid's teeth? That's what I've always heard.

[Krilons Resa]

Sucking their thumb is worse. But this is all once they actually have a good set of teeth, of course. Their are a bunch of pros and cons although I wish we never introduced it. However, I don't think that is the root of our problem.

[dorian gray]

Pacifiers rule. Wait until you have more than one child. You'll be sucking on one.



I dont remember the early years well but I can tell you my three year old continues to wake up at least once in the middle of the night for whatever nefarious reason she has conjured up. When she was still using her Nuk several months ago, she would wake up two or three times a night from it falling it out of her mouth.

I don't really have any advice though; I think it may just be one of those things that are expected.

[dorian gray]

what's the Ferber Method?

[Krilons Resa]

Originally Posted by dorian gray

what's the Ferber Method?

http://pediatrics.about.com/od/sleep...erber_mthd.htm

http://www.babycenter.com/0_the-ferb...tified_7755.bc

[Krilons Resa]

Originally Posted by dorian gray

Wait until you have more than one child.

We babysat our nephew (her sister's child) last night and it was hell on earth. My 6-mointh old sleeps better than him at 2+ years old. He cant go to sleep alone yet and has trouble sleeping by himself period. Insane seperation anxiety and has nothing to do with a pacifier. It sure gave me perspective.

[dorian gray]

Originally Posted by Krilons Resa

hell on earth.

[lurch70]

i don't remember what we did about putting her back to sleep (heck I didn't remember to shampoo my hair in the shower today) but we NEVER used a pacifier with our daughter.

[Krilons Resa]

RC = Recollection Consigned to oblivion

The fuck guys?!

You don't remember how you got your children to go to bed on their own and sleep throughout the night and at approximately what age?

Lurch, I recall you saying that your daughter was sleeping with you and the missus the past week. What led to that?

This whole sleep business is starting to plague my consciousness lately and I'm afraid it will until it is, partly at least, remedied.

My only concern with the Ferber Method is if it messes with the child's psychological well being at some minute, deeply engrained level. Learned helplessness perhaps. But I'm sure that is remedied by the timely checking-in on the child to reassure that you are still there but the cries won't garner unneeded parental soothing. Behavior adjustment by teaching to self soothe; a valuable tool worthy of the long term. Also, surely it depends on the child. This shit probably wouldn't go over well with my nephew, especially at this point. His learned behavior is beyond this point by now.

Oh, parenting.

[dorian gray]

Originally Posted by lurch70

heck I didn't remember to shampoo my hair in the shower today

hahahahaha this right here

[lurch70]

What led to that?

laziness and defeat

[dorian gray]

Originally Posted by Krilons Resa

RC = Recollection Consigned to oblivion



You don't remember how you got your children to go to bed on their own and sleep throughout the night and at approximately what age?

hahahahaha

and

not really. During the twos sometime. The transition from crib to bed was very difficult for both our kids.

[lurch70]

Originally Posted by Krilons Resa

We babysat our nephew (her sister's child) last night and it was hell on earth. My 6-mointh old sleeps better than him at 2+ years old. He cant go to sleep alone yet and has trouble sleeping by himself period. Insane seperation anxiety and has nothing to do with a pacifier. It sure gave me perspective.

there is some book for brutal sleep teaching techniques out there that I browsed through. I can fidn out the title for you. it has a lot to do with letting them freak out and cry until the brink of not being able to breathe ... and only then tending to them.
if you are a masochist it might work for you

our daughter sleeps fine now ... she is slowly transitioning to her own bed.
problem is we have one bedroom for now and she is still in our room ...
i am making her area really comfortable "looking" now so she wants to sleep there.

[lurch70]

you see what I mean ... i just read above fro this Ferber method ... that's the one I was referring to.

supposedly it can take as long as 2 weeks for this new thing to work ... so you have to deal with that chaos of crying themselves to sleep.
it depends on your personality of course as well.

as far as things being ingrained in their psyche ... i don't think that's a concern for the long term.

[dorian gray]

Originally Posted by lurch70

problem is we have one bedroom for now and she is still in our room ...

If ever there was an impetus for moving out of NY, this would be it.

I heard Nashville is pretty nice

[lurch70]

uff ... not seeing brown people would kill me.

will see what happens come 2012 regarding a new pad.

[dorian gray]

Because of its relatively low cost of living and large job market, Nashville has become a popular city for immigrants.[41] Nashville's foreign-born population more than tripled in size between 1990 and 2000, increasing from 12,662 to 39,596. Large groups of Mexicans, Kurds,[42] Vietnamese, Laotians, Cambodians, Arabs, and Bantus call Nashville home, among other groups.[43] Nashville has the largest Kurdish community in the United States, numbering approximately 11,000.[44] About 60,000 Bhutanese refugees are being admitted to the U.S. and some of them will resettle in Nashville.[45] During the Iraqi election of 2005, Nashville was one of the few international locations where Iraqi expatriates could vote.[46] The American Jewish community in Nashville dates back over 150 years, and numbered about 6,500 in 2001.[47][48]

[lurch70]

do you have a subway with hookers?

[dorian gray]

not yet