This has been going through my head for probably a few years now. I've played guitar since I was about 12 years old and I'm now 31. I've been in 4 bands throughout this time. The current band I'm in has done more so far than probably all other 3 combined. Though we still are unsigned, play a lot of shithole bars, have 0 guarantee and most of the time get paid nothing for gigs and have to drive 2, 3, sometimes 4 vehicles hours away for shows because we have no van/trailer. Of course every band will have disagreements on certain things, but I find myself clashing with usually 2 of the other (founding) members. We will discuss what our plans are and shoot for the goal, then, randomly, one or 2 guys get a wild hair up their asses and bring up some off-the-wall idea that I just don't jive with. It seems I'm the black sheep of the group and I'm always the "negative one" when I speak my mind on how maybe some of these ideas are possibly worse for us than they are beneficial. We're currently tracking for our first full length release. I spent quite a lot of time tracking the bulk of rhythm guitars. Today I get a message from another member about possibly having a friend who does DJ type stuff add a "filler" track in between songs for the album. Then more talk of possibly adding extra tracks (instrumental, no drums, etc) to fill more space. We already got a quote for a 9 song album and it will be mixed by a fellow forum member. We still have a lot of work on our plate and I think worrying about adding filler crap to something I and the drummer (so far) have worked so goddamn hard on is just a dumb idea. Maybe I'm totally alone in thinking this and need to see what could possibly come of it and open my eyes a bit? Can't all agree on an album title yet.....and a few members are just DYING to have a name set so we can start promoting....and the "I don't care what the name is, I just want to get it out there so people know about it" attitude absolutely fucking KILLS me. It's like "rush rush rush! Let's just get it done so we can promote!" vs "take our time, do it right, let's not possibly hurt our name by rushing". I love music. I really don't want to have to leave my band because of these disagreements. But I'm not exactly truly happy and I'm not sure I ever will be with any band. And around here, it's very hard to find dedicated musicians who aren't going to flake out in a few months. We basically pay to play almost every single show. We rarely get paid, and our bulk of $ comes from t-shirt sales. The amount we spend in gas $ to drive 2-4 vehicles on a 4 hour round trip SUCKS. I keep bringing up the fact that we need at least some kind of guarantee, but most of these clubs require at least 10 presold tickets to even get paid anything. We're all in our late twenties/early thirties. It's not as easy to bring friends out as it was 10 years ago. I don't even really know why I'm posting this. I guess I'm looking for some sort of advice. I'm trying to look out for our bands name and not make any stupid or "wrong" decisions, and when I voice this to the other members, they get mad at me and basically call me the "negative one" and that we will never get ahead in this game if we don't take chances. Sorry, rant over. Any thoughts or advice would be great. This just makes me depressed even though it's the best band I've had in my life.