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virtual Emotions or relationships

Discussion in 'The Philosopher' started by I-TEND-TO-DIE, Oct 18, 2016.

  1. I-TEND-TO-DIE

    I-TEND-TO-DIE leave this world behind

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    Well I just wanted to know if anyone made experiences in the case of chatting to a person over the internet where you had expected a real friendship. Do you think it's even possible to make real friends over for example Facebook for example? Personally I don't think so because I believe that many people on Fb just trying to avoid real deep discussions. I rarely found people there with which I can really relate to my life problems and talk about certain issues who affect me. Mostly it's just shallow discussions who never match any real sense. And if so do you think that an internet affair can replace something you lack of in real life? I just wanted to hear opinions about it in general positive or negative.

    I called the thread "Virtual emotions" because I recently was chatting with someone I really liked first because of her art I was getting interested and I really thought she would like me too...Normally I don't fall into such things easily anymore because most of the time I ignore social networks like Fb anyway.
    But anyhow this girl attracted me very much and I couldn't refuse to start chatting with her because I had in mind I could talk really about things that go beneath the surface and perhaps I could so to say build a relationship..

    In fact it was a very weird chat I showed her something I was drawing and she was an expert in that kinda stuff but anyhow I realized that she wasn't really interested in me. So I switched over to tell something very personal (which I don't wanna talk about here...) but she just didn't reply after a few posts and seemed just to loose total interest in me.

    I feel a kind of rejection right now I don't know Iam not really sure. I just expected more to have someone I can talk to about personal issues but I totally gave up on it.
     
  2. Elric of Melniboné

    Elric of Melniboné The White Wolf

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    Plenty of people have met on social media and had long-term relationships or friendships.
     
  3. Kruycium

    Kruycium RAMEN LORD

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    I believe that such relationships are possible and speaking from my own experience I met my best friend over a random chatsite.
     
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    CiG Salute of the Jugger

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    I've made plenty of deep, lasting friendships on social media.
     
  5. I-TEND-TO-DIE

    I-TEND-TO-DIE leave this world behind

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    well I think so too. I recently chatted with someone and he invited me to a festival. And he was a very nice guy in person too and I believe there was some kind of friendship which started. It depends on gender/peoples mentality I guess.

    To mention abit more she seems to be kind of an art student or something and I think she has very high expectations of men I really don't know. But I must say Iam very frustrated I thought being in contact with her could be more just saying "hello and ciao". I also wanted to make a drawing for her but I just threw it in the rubbish so emotionally hurt Iam by this beast.

    Some women are like a pyramid. You can watch the beautiful outside but you'll never find the entrance to the inside. I think we never can explore our deeper Psyche totally and we'll never know what some people really find attractive about each other. Perhaps it's also often because of material values etc.
     
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    You just have to be careful with what you say to people who have just meant you, because at that point, they are still heavily focused on creating judgements.
     
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    Virtual or not, some people want to have deep conversations and get to know you more, and some simply don't. This has nothing to do with talking virtually or not, this has to do with the individual and how they feel.
     
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    facebook seems to be much more shallow than other social media
    twitter is just sending text-messages to random people
    i'd say a forum (maybe even this one?) is the place where you can really let go and open up to people, maybe
     
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    It's one of the better ones. Not as good as an active forum, sure. But not nearly as frivolous as the likes of Instagram, Snapchat and Tinder. Or Twitter and Reddit, which are basically just screaming into the void (the majority of posts/comments go unread or at least get buried quickly).

    These days almost everyone you know is on Facebook or at least some site, so there's very little incentive to get to know strangers online any more. It's easier just to read what your existing friends are up to. But even with them it's rare to be able to keep a meaningful discussion going. It's great when you can though. Real life conversations tend to be more shallow for me because I have less time to process my thoughts, and there's usually beer involved too.

    About 20% of my Facebook friends are people I've never met in real life, but those are mostly people I chatted to or gamed with before I joined FB. Now that my life is based more around music and going to live shows, I tend to prioritise others with that hobby. The strangers I connect with are usually people I'll soon meet at gigs.
     
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    maybe you're right, sort of, but alot of facebook is meaningless chat now
    and facebook has some hardcore porn (if you know how to find it) and there's still a huge amount of people that use facebook to look at softcore porn

    snapchat is pretty bad too
    there was one crazy girl that was using snapchat to show her friends pictures of my dick every freaking time she saw me face-2-face, it was really weird whipping out my junk every time i hung out with her
     

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