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life quality poll

Discussion in 'RC' started by Erik, Jan 10, 2006.

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i think my life at the moment is

  1. shit

    12 vote(s)
    16.2%
  2. ok

    43 vote(s)
    58.1%
  3. great

    19 vote(s)
    25.7%
  1. Doom

    Doom Active Member

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    It seems like everyone on this forum went and got married.

    I'm in a 7 year relationship and it's great. We've honestly never had a conversation about marriage though in all that time. I'm not exactly averse to the idea, just not really fussed either.

    I voted "ok" first time around, and I guess it is closer to "great" now.
     
  2. MFJ

    MFJ Active Member

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    This was exactly how I felt after about 7 years in the relationship. She eventually forced me to get married on the 10th year. It's coming, dude.
     
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  3. Doom

    Doom Active Member

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    :tickled:

    As long as I don't have to pay for it or spend any time planning it, I'll go along with whatever haha.
     
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  4. einride

    einride your best friend

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    lmao, we got married on our 10th year too

    i mean it was clearly a good idea since we intend to stay together, but marriage has little symbolic meaning to me (although legally it is a plus to be a married couple of course and the actual marriage and dinner and party with all of our friends and family was very worth it, one of the best days ever)

    once again i find myself agreeing entirely with you two
     
  5. NAD

    NAD What A Horrible Night To Have A Curse

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    Hi. Married in the 5th year. Her idea of course, for I am a typical dude neanderthal. I was like "meh, if you insist" the whole time.

    Then once we got married I said "I like being married, this is fun!" and she said "it was hotter when you were just my boyfriend."
     
  6. ~Neurotica

    ~Neurotica perfectly insane

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    I know a couple who are both past 42-45, have a house and 2 kids, the oldest is 12 y/o. Then she forced him into a huge wedding on an island with first class plane tickets and all that. He spent like $16-20k just on travel expenses along.
    Guess at a certain age a wedding can also be some sort of a break from a boring life :)
     
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  7. MFJ

    MFJ Active Member

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    We had a pretty fancy wedding with approximately 80 people. I had ideally wanted a small ceremony with close friends and family only, but my in-laws took over the expenses and the whole thing got out of control. Everyone who attended had a good time, and overall it was a successful event. The ceremony itself was short and sweet (less than 15 minutes I think, which most people appreciated) and the party featured excellent food/drinks in a beautiful setting by the ocean.

    For me personally, I'd be lying if I said it was spiritually fulfilling. I don't care for repeated personal interactions and I definitely hate large groups of people. What I dislike more than anything is being the center of attention. While everything went well, I was really overwhelmed by the whirlwind of greeting everyone and the bizarre situation of meeting tons of people who I'd never met before. I barely got to enjoy the wonderful food because we were so busy taking photographs and talking to all of the guests. It was extremely taxing on a personal level and I had a bit of an emotional breakdown the following day.

    I will forever be grateful that the whole thing went off without a snag and that everyone had a good time. My in-laws spent a lot of money on the whole thing and obviously we are in their debt. My point is: if you've been dreaming of that small, intimate wedding then DO NOT COMPROMISE. It isn't a celebration for other people, it's supposed to be a celebration for yourselves.
     
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  8. Ellestin

    Ellestin one-click buy

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    tell me about it.
    I've never felt a greater sense of displacement than the day everyone at the student commune I lived in back in the day threw a surprise party for my 20th birthday... Fortunately after an hour or so everyone was hammered so I could slip away unnoticed
     
  9. Carabeu

    Carabeu Active Member

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    I think we had about 40 guests and spent $3,000 max on our wedding. Had the ceremony at a city park and reception at my friend's restaurant. I would have been fine (and more comfortable) with a courthouse wedding, but my husband wanted the event. Kinda felt ridiculous getting dressed up and doing the ceremony thing in front of everyone, but whatever. People had fun. That was 8 years ago.

    And yeah, we separated back in February, but we may be able to work something out.
     
  10. Hell Mike

    Hell Mike fuck melodic black metal

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    Me and Johanna married at the town hall with our two daughters, two random official witnesses and the dude who officiated it as the only people who were there or even knew. Called mom on the way from there to the airport for a honeymoon in cyprus and told her we had gotten married, see you in a week, please feed the cats and also tell dad
     
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  11. Opeth17

    Opeth17 Bill Ward's Red Pants

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    My wife and I got married in our fourth year together. We had planned a big wedding for June but I was diagnosed with cancer in April so we had a small ceremony with our families at the beginning of May. I finished chemo and all of that and went back to work and we planned to have the big wedding a year from the original date (the anniversary of when we first started dating) as a renewal and celebration.

    If I could do it over again I would have married her sooner. I knew the first year that this was it. Looking back, we also would have liked to start having kids sooner. We have been blessed with two now and are hoping for more (we're still young enough for that but not as young as I wish). I've always been a hopeless romantic, but I realize that I was affected by society's conventions about "readiness." To hell with all that. When you know its the one go for it. It's been ten years together now and things get better every day.
     
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  12. Nico

    Nico Onward!

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    "Supposed to be" being the key word. We had to put off our wedding twice because the inlaws were unhappy with venue arrangements. In the end I had to tell them to pull their heads in, and on the day my folks were the ones who wanted everything to be about them. Haven't seen them much since.

    We're celebrating nine years together tomorrow, married for 2.

    We both grew up a fair way away from where we're living now, so for us it was an opportunity to drag all our mates out to the desert for a big bush generator party. Old cattle station with dilapidated buildings, few bands on the back of a flatbed truck... and couple hundred KM from town so no phone reception. Wasn't cheap, and I got way too drunk (nerves + shithead) but it was definitely a grand one.
     
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  13. Krilons Resa

    Krilons Resa Jerry's married?!

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    Never wanted to get married nor have children. But you know, that love thing. Marriage has zero symbolic meaning to me. If I'm with you, I'm with you for a reason and don't plan on leaving...if I do, "marriage" sure as hell isn't gonna prevent it from going awry. My marriage was huge, exorbitant, and outrageously expensive that was footed by my ex-wife's parents cuz they're old-school Portuguese and that's what they do. The entire process was one big cringe. I will admit though that the actual day was one of the most enjoyable days of my life however. Well, I got a majorly kick-ass son out of the deal so I can't say it was a total failure. The marriage thing should have never happened though. It was definitely rushed into. "Only fools..."

    My current girlfriend (sounds weird at our age) of 5+years have both been there, done that. We have no desire to get married...unless one day we have to for legal reasons of course. No need to complicate anything.

    There's nothing inherently wrong with it, especially if you're a religious person and it has symbolic meaning for ya. I find though that a lot of people do it just because "that's what ya do"/societal pressure, it's some kind of Walt Disney fantasy in their minds, or it's something that is to be strived for and attained as some kind of status symbol. The latter is where people tend to stop trying and phone it in for the rest of the way because they have reached the pinnacle status of the relationship as if they don't have to continually work at it like any other relationship (which involves everything in life...life = relationship) with it's ebbs and flows...it's process/flux.
     
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  14. J.

    J. Old Fart

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    Im divorced and single. I do not plan on getting married again. Fuck that. I moved in with a chick after dating for a year and left after 5 shitty months. Bitches be crazy.

    Im talking to someone, but we are moving sloooooow and Im fine with that. If it goes no where, no worries.

    If I want ass, online dating apps are at my fingertips.

    These days its g/w/k.....gym work kids
     
  15. ~Neurotica

    ~Neurotica perfectly insane

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    I don't imagine a western type of guy sincerely wishing for a big ass wedding. Normally it's a woman who pushes for that as she wants to feel all that dress-cake-flowers-vows-limousin-violins-200 guests vibe that is being shoved down her throat starting from when she was a little toothless princess - by fairy tales, cartoons, movies, celebs, girlfriends etc etc.

    I think a huge wedding like that should only happen if it's super comfortable financially, like if those 5-7k won't make any difference. If they will - then what's the point in getting in debts to in the end be overwhelmed for the whole day and not enjoy it at all, as most of the times this kind of event isn't for you but for the guests. Isn't it better to spend this money on traveling, stuff for the house, new experience (luxury escort threesome).
    But life is life, ofc :)
     
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  16. einride

    einride your best friend

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    we held our wedding on my parents-in-law's property. got married and had our pictures taken outside in the fields & forests and had the reception/dinner/party in a big ol' barn they have. very cost-effective and personal as far as location etc. but we spent A LOT of time clearing out junk from that old barn and cleaning it up, building a bar, etc. it was a lot of work but pretty fun in retrospect. last-minute we had to run out and get huge sheets of fabric to tie to the beams above the dinner tables because a family of swallows had taken up residence in the barn and would otherwise have shit all over the tables. but everything went way too smoothly in the end and a good time was had by all.

    what we DID splurge on was the photographer. we had a guy whose work my wife particularly liked sent in from southern sweden and he was a real pro. we figured when this was all said and done the pictures would be what remained, so better spend some extra cash there. i regret nothing although it was a sizable chunk of change
     
  17. Demilich

    Demilich Remember

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    Can't have the guy who does the local black metal band's promo shots capturing such special moments eh?
     
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  18. Nico

    Nico Onward!

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    Although it'd make for bloody good press if you were a husband-wife artistic duo.

    The photos were one of our more contentious decisions, and we weren't happy with the photos. Fortunately a friend of ours put together a short video that gives a much better impression of the place and land and vibe. End of the day, we've got our memories and everyone else can get fucked (especially the photographer).
     
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  19. Krigloch the Furious

    Krigloch the Furious Pants full of poo

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    Finally started working for the post office
    They have myself and a few others just delivering packages
    Nuts so far. Super long days
    Monday: 7:30am-7:30pm
    Tuesday: 7:30am-8:15pm
    See how today goes.

    We have to stand outside and load our boxes into our vans. But they need to be in an order'ish. So I pay for an app that puts them in a delivery route for me.
    Only problem is inputting the street names and numbers. My hands hate me, so cold in the morning! Going to try rubber gloves today.
     
  20. Ellestin

    Ellestin one-click buy

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    wait you pay to work?
    I must be lost in translation there
     

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