To give you a serious answer: open by asking if they have AIDS. If they say yes, you've dodged a bullet, and if they say no, you've now declared your intentions and you can carry on the date.
Things are still great with the girl I'm seeing. Last night at her place she schooled the fuck out of me on the history of modern art. Pulled out a pile of books on various artists, pointed out elements in their work that I'd never have noticed on my own, and very articulately explained how two stylistic elements from different people represented the progression of a single idea over time (i.e. how Cezanne began a sort of deconstruction of perspective, which Picasso later "perfected"). I love being with someone who's smart, sexy, and so driven by artistic vision. I'm less worried about her mental issues than I was before, but what stands out to me now is that she's very dependent on her dad (whom she lives with) to get by. Her mom died last year, and her dad's in his mid 70s and in poor health. She's still grieving her mom, and worried that she'd be unable to cope if her dad died too. If that happened, it could put a strain on our relationship which I'm not sure I'd want to deal with. I prefer to think she just needs time and a bit of inspiration to start living a healthy, sustainable life, but it's easy to see her as on a path of inevitable doom...
Made a new OKC account the other day. Already have a few matches. Far more than I ever got in fucking Pissoria. Now, to be the piece of shit heartbreaker that I've been recently and to hit on chicks then proceed to ghost them.
OKC asks you a shit-ton of questions (limitless actually, the more you answer the more accurate it gets) and then shows you the people you have the highest compatibility with, so it's pretty useful for finding like-minded people.
You might want to try one of the more kinky dating websites for that shit, you kinky sub. I think that, since moving, I've seen an influx of girls that might actually be into me and, unlike back at home where the girls most likely didn't give two shits, I'm starting to kinda get the hint.
Iirc OkCupid had a feature where you'd fill out a list of your weird kinks, and other members would only see what the two of you had in common. That was a really neat feature.
It was for a while especially without a quote feature. I bugged them about it enough that they developed a really shitty one. It got so bad that they kept the board up but took the link off the main site. They had so many trolls on there it was hilarious.
