wee, not really - i cannot control at all whom i meet, and especially i have no say in the fact that everyone else doesn't even come close. the true impossibility lies in finding someone who looks like a better match than he does, and i don't see how i have any control over that... unfortunately. fireangel: incredibly enough, agreed. i don't want to start anything with tricks. but i have to check myself, because even if i might not embrace it entirely i still have a predisposition toward strategic thinking.