This is likely true of all parties involved and can be extrapolated to most inter-personal conflicts. Having an estate be at the heart of this particular conflict only serves to exacerbate the situation. I have worked with a number of estates in my profession and can attest to even the easiest/cleanest ones being able to bring out the absolute worst in the executors/beneficiaries. Clearly, there is a lot of emotion driving some of this public conflict and "who's in the right?" can vary depending on the lens you choose to see the issue through. I fear that the spectacle this has become is only going to further serve as a divide to settling the estate. I read an article recently about an estate that went to litigation, where the parties involved were completely deadlocked in their positions. The litigation went on for years and years with the following outcome: total estate value $500k and the total legal costs between both parties at $700k. In the end, no one won, except for the lawyers (and even then I suspect negligence claims are on their way). I hope that the parties here are capable of taking this offline fully, are able to sit down with a mediation group and resolve everything privately. Once again, not taking sides and not legal advice.