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what the fuck to do with my life plz

Discussion in 'RC' started by einride, Oct 25, 2011.

  1. Krilons Resa

    Krilons Resa Jerry's married?!

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    It will be amicable if we both decide to split ways. We've already had that discussion.

    As for the first passage, seems idealistic for my certain situation. We are just two completely different people. I'll never be interested in what she is and vice versa. I don't even know wtf she is interested in besides watching stupid television shows, tbh. She doesn't have any hobbies whereas I have a million interests that I get completely lost in and absorb me...then she feels neglected. We can't even have a simple conversation without some sort of communication breakdown, lmao. Different fucking universes. Everything is amicable to a certain degree but there's is just nothing there. I don't know how to explain it. I feel uncomfortable even touching her.

    Why the fuck am I talking about this shit on a Metal Forum?
     
  2. Carabeu

    Carabeu Active Member

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    That sounds awful and awkward. Just curious...what was there when you married her that's not there now?
     
  3. Krilons Resa

    Krilons Resa Jerry's married?!

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    The hell if I know. I fell in love with an idea, imo. I wanted a wholesome, good girl with a big heart and that's what she is. Then I met her family and they were amazing and extremely tight-knit, which also I fell in love with cuz it was something I never had. Her brother-in-law also became my best friend. The rest is history. I definitely rushed into it.

    There were warning signs when we were dating like awkward silence at dinner, our first date when I asked her what she was into and she literally couldnt answer me, and me thinking she may not be what I'm looking for but, for some reason ignored it cuz I felt badly about it for some reason. I also vividly remember going out for our first anniversary and being anxious about it cuz I had no fucking idea what we would talk about together when it was just us face-to-face at the table.

    It's not as bad as it sounds by these posts but it definitely isn't healthy or fulfilling either...for both of us; not just for me. I don;t think I would ever be able to provide her with what she needs and vice versa. It doesn;t make us bad people or either of us right/wrong. It is what it is.
     
  4. Ellestin

    Ellestin one-click buy

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    First things first, come to Europe and lemme fix that melancholy of yours with adequate beverage and manly entertainment!
     
  5. Krilons Resa

    Krilons Resa Jerry's married?!

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    Sorry Bertrand. I still prefer women.

    I appreciate your opportunistic scheme though.
     
  6. Johanna

    Johanna merciless DEATH

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    are you sure?
     
  7. Krilons Resa

    Krilons Resa Jerry's married?!

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    For the most part.
     
  8. Carabeu

    Carabeu Active Member

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    Well, I know what it is like to fall in love with an idea, and I definitely know what it's like to hang on for too long. I recommend not doing that. As far as your child goes, if you really think you're going to get divorced sooner or later, it's probably better to do it sooner than later. It's never easy on a child at any age, but at least he's still young enough that if you found someone that's really right for you within the next few years, there might be a better chance of him developing a good relationship with that person than if that happened when he's a teenager or young adult. What mommy would do is a whole other story, though.
     
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    NAD What A Horrible Night To Have A Curse

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    hahaha :Smokedev:

    I like this. I like this a lot, but... I might argue that shared interests are almost as important as core values. At least a few, or at the very minimal some crossover appeal. My wife isn't a headbanger, but she likes industrial music, artsy shit, and thrust-rock, so we meet with Ministry, Swans, and White Zombie. If she was into shitty pop-country I don't think I could handle that, and her tolerance for black metal would be nil were it not for her love of Skinny Puppy.

    Then again, I tend to lump together my interests into the core values quite often. I'm an atheist, she's a ditheist. But... we both have very similar ideals regarding organized religion and tolerance of other people's made up beliefs (including our own). Again, if she were a devout Muslim, nopenopenope. I have a hard enough time getting her to eat Sunday Bacon as it is!

    Ugh. :erk:

    See? You built the romance, instead of expecting it from the beginning!
     
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    dorian gray Returning videotapes

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    This is getting good
     
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    dorian gray Returning videotapes

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    Hahahahahahahahahahahhaa
     
  12. Krilons Resa

    Krilons Resa Jerry's married?!

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    I'm exclusively here for your entertainment, dorian.
     
  13. swizzlenuts

    swizzlenuts i'm sciencing as fast as i can

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    This is why I'm never having kids.

    I have no interest in giving my opinion because there is no such thing as a relationship with a swizzle
     
  14. Krilons Resa

    Krilons Resa Jerry's married?!

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    This doesn;t really have anything to do with kids, exclusively. It sure does complicate the issue though.
     
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    swizzlenuts i'm sciencing as fast as i can

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    Obviously it doesn't have everything to do with the kids; the complication of the situation is what I meant.
     
  16. Krilons Resa

    Krilons Resa Jerry's married?!

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    More than likely, you'll find yourself in the situation one day. :loco:
     
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    swizzlenuts i'm sciencing as fast as i can

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    Do you really want another one of me around in this world? I don't think so
     
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    Krilons Resa Jerry's married?!

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    I should just get absolutely annihilated before this "date" then tell my RC brethren the tales that ensued.
     
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    J. Old Fart

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    people not wanting kids amuses me. not that i think everyone should pro-create, absolutely not. but that every reason not to is so naive sounding like "they slobber", "they're shit factories", "no sleep", "no alone time with signficant other", etc. it's always the stupid, easiest things that people use as excuses because a) they're afriad whether they believe it or not and know it or not b) they dont want anything intruding on they're piddly little lives because change is bad

    or c) they cant find anyone to fuck

    and the people that do have kids that say they wish they didnt are complete liars. sure they might have a nostalgic moment wishing they were playing beer pong and watching porn on the projector in a meaningless existence, but in the end, they wouldnt give up that kid for anything.
     

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