What a disappointment. I've always appreciated Deen's abilities as a drummer and a singer. When I heard about the first offense, I tried giving him the benefit of the doubt, as none of us were there to see what really happened. After this occurrence, however, it's hard not to think of the guy as a scumbag.
I dunno. If it's two different girlfriends (the 2012 and recent incidents), then I'm more inclined to think "scumbag." But if it's the same girl both times (and we don't know), I'm more skeptical.
I say this from personal experience. My ex-wife called the police on me multiple times, claiming I'd hit her, pushed her, or whatever. The truth is that I never laid a finger on her.
It took me a while to figure out that she was doing it as a way to try to control me.
One of the cops that SHE called actually told me (after he and another cop had talked to her separately) that "you need to get out of this relationship." His words, not mine. He said he'd been a cop long enough that he could tell she was lying, but she was trying REALLY hard to get them to arrest me. He said she was initially holding her hand to one side of her face "where he hit me," but later she was holding the other side. Oops. So, they obviously didn't believe her, but as the cop said to me, maybe the next cop she calls will. We split up 4 months later, thankfully.
After my experience, I'm always a bit skeptical unless they are physical signs. It's just hard to tell the liars from the victims, and that's the sad part. Manipulative liars like my ex make people question *actual* abuse. If you hear too many kids crying wolf, you're hesitant to believe any of them anymore.
Going back to Deen, the other guys in Journey obviously know WAY more about it than us, so I'm actually more inclined to believe Deen really is an abuser because the band was convinced enough to boot him....unless they just were doing damage control to the band's brand. Hard to say.
Craig