The Depression (and mocking/support) thread

[Pessimism]

I don't know you, but even if I did I wouldn't hop on the pity-train that's about to arrive at your door-step.

Face the fact that this world is a cruel and unusual place at times; you didn't have to do a god damned thing in order for your ex to do something this heinous; she's could simply be a maniacal bitch, she could even just be plain malicious. Hell, she could even just want to be as far away from you as possible for some other reason and she just wants to take what she thinks is hers with her.

So stop with the bullshit "I don't deserve this or that" comments.

Just remember; not everyone you love in life will feel the same about you. In fact, there is a good chance people you like may hold many qualities you have in contempt. Hell, they may scorn you for no logical reason at all! In the end, does that have anything to do with how you as a person are according to some compass that points towards righteous moral attitudes or proper personality? Fuck no.

Unfortunately, this shit is taken to the extremes sometimes. So get off your depression, and go get your kid back through any available route you can find. And for fucks sakes, you've got to break your relationship off in your head and heart with that woman. She's basically just raped your essence and all you're doing is talking about loving her. Face it, no one would do this to someone they love, and no one is stupid enough to do something like this accidentally. Break it off; accept the fact that you loved this woman in the past, and that she will always have a place inside of you. Now accept the fact that this bitch has begun treading all over you and your sons future - she is your adversary now, nothing more and nothing less.

 

[zabu of nΩd]

Appointment at noon tomorrow with a therapist. Hope it helps, because without my child and, yes, his mother, I've broken down.

Glad to hear you got around to scheduling that. I hope it helps. Like Pessimism said, be sure to be honest with the therapist.

 

[MetalAges]

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d_t I would echo several things in this thread. Definitely go to that meeting with a professional.

Also, don't be afraid to just come on here and vent, venting vs. bottling it up will help.

And most importantly, the very reason that you're having trouble right now, is the very reason you need to hang in there, your child. I don't know what happened between you and your wife, but that really is aside from the point that, you are that kiddo's Father so they're going to be looking TO you, UP to you and needing you as they grow. Don't take that away from them, and don't you take it away from yourself.

I say this as a Father. You WILL make it through this, but it will take a bit to climb this 'ol mountain that's in front of you.

At the very least, if you and your wife are no longer going to be together, you can go to the courts or what have you and arrange for visitation / part custody etc. It's your right as one of the parents, and she can not take that away from you.

If you truly don't know why she has left, maybe sit down and write her a letter. Be sincere and calm, don't attack her, and ask what happened, why, and prepare to hear it as she feels it.

Then again, I personally know someone who was in a similar situation as you. Wife just up and left, no real reason, he was baffled as hell, struggled like yourself. He's doing awesome these days, he helped raise his kid, he is getting remarried, he has a love for life. You will find it again as well.

What do you do for a living?

Hang in there dude.

 

[divine_torture]

Too much drinking and heroin mixed with the sheer shock and hurt from the incident initially. I'm doing much better now, and I truly appreciate everyone's concern. For the first time I just let it out and was 'normal' in that I cried, complained, etc. I'm back to me now, I have this awesome chick I'm rather digging, and I'm working on getting my son. Fuck the ex, I've got better things going for me now.

Also, thanks for your input, Deron. Having input from someone who is a father and such is very beneficial.

 

[waif]

Good to hear from you, dude. Really glad you're pulling it together. I hope you'll be coming back more, maybe talking about the metul and such.

 

[Pessimism]

honestly, those few words are good to hear. Yes, that was one of my new Years resolutions.

You should feel bad because you are a terrible person; the only goal you have set for yourself is death and you even failed at that due to a syndrome known as "being a pussy".

You are a bad person.

I've been on an antidepressant for almost a year now. I started taking a new one in addition with it and it might be having weird effects. Earlier today I felt fucking euphoric but I'm drained now, and have hardly any will to speak to my friends.

Don't take those; I prescribe you hookers, pay them with beatings.












Also, if I have to point out that you shouldn't take this seriously... well... don't

 

[Saparmurat_Niyazov]

As a depressed individual, I've spent so much of my life seeing all the wickedness, ugliness, and hopelessness in the world, and I only recently realized that I was hurting the ones I loved most (my wife and children) by viewing the world in this way. My wife and I had a really deep discussion earlier this week, and I realized that, despite all the horrible things that people do, I am loved by my family and I must be thankful. She also reminded me that I have good, loyal friends, and I should be thankful for them as well. I guess my point is, there is a fine line between realism and pessimism, and be careful not to cross it. People do despicable things every day, but there are those rare few who will stand in your corner and make life worth living.

 

[panzerfaust666]

thanks for the support Pessimism!

 

[-CC-]

I think this thread is the perfect place for me to ask..who the hell is in your avatar saparmut?! And exactly what the fuck is going on? Is she being choked by balloon strings?

 

[Saparmurat_Niyazov]

It's porn superstar Jada Fire, and she's ejaculating.

 

[Mentok]

I think this thread is the perfect place for me to ask..who the hell is in your avatar saparmut?! And exactly what the fuck is going on? Is she being choked by balloon strings?

 

[Blind Guardian]

It's porn superstar Jada Fire, and she's ejaculating.

Huh, I never noticed that before. Tiana Lynn is the best ejaculator though.

 

[DarkBliss]

I think this thread is the perfect place for me to ask..who the hell is in your avatar saparmut?! And exactly what the fuck is going on? Is she being choked by balloon strings?

sig-worthy.

 

[MetalAges]

Also, thanks for your input, Deron. Having input from someone who is a father and such is very beneficial.

You got it man, holler if you ever need to yap.

For all others, and this is something I even have to remind myself of, as bad as some of us may think we have it sometimes, or moan and groan about things that really, are minuscule in the big picture...

... remember folks who have no choice and truly are struggling, hurting, and really have things TO be depressed about, yet, you find them fighting for everything. Children with diseases/cancers (yet to experience jack in life), Victims of torture crimes (Africa issues, etc.) - when you take a few steps back and compare what you have going on against folks like that - don't you think you just might have it pretty good?

Stay positive dudes/dudettes!

 

[MetalAges]

By the way, one of the things most recently to make me say the above is, a kid in my boys Cub Scouts, age 9, is struggling for his life right now (they've already started collecting funds to cover his funeral is how grim it is).

Constant pain (on morphine), countless transfusions, bone marrow transplant, because of the meds he has bloated up big time (was a stick thin kid before), almost completely blind now, can't walk on his own - THIS boy, and a lot more than we'd be comfortable knowing about, are the ones who really have struggles in life. Most of the stuff us on here are going through, it's fixable, it's changeable. For kids/people like the 9 year old boy, he wishes he had problems like us, you know?

 

[sevag00]

I, in this particular case, am battling with cancer, and i have seen over hundreds of kids in the hospital like me. I know a 1 year old baby, who is blind, and has skin cancer. It's terrible to witness newborns like that. You can only pray to God to heal them.

 

[viewerfromnihil]

Too much drinking and heroin mixed with the sheer shock and hurt from the incident initially. I'm doing much better now, and I truly appreciate everyone's concern. For the first time I just let it out and was 'normal' in that I cried, complained, etc. I'm back to me now, I have this awesome chick I'm rather digging, and I'm working on getting my son. Fuck the ex, I've got better things going for me now.

Also, thanks for your input, Deron. Having input from someone who is a father and such is very beneficial.

Apoth! Glad to see you back around man. We were beginning to expect the worst at MR. It's great to see things are going in a good direction. Best of luck with your son.

 

[Tonka Time]

The thing that pisses me off is how I'd like to trade places with people like that so that they, people who want to live, can have that. There is absolutly no fucking reason for me to feel like this either and the fact that I feel this way makes me feel worse. Like how dare I not enjoy life when there are so many suffering people out there that would kill to be in my position. Recently things have just fucking faded for me. I've barely picked up my guitar this year and have lost just about all drive to do anything. Funny thing is the rare times where I am able to wind my self up and go for somthing it always fails and I feel even worse. One example, my grades have been going down the drain and one night I said to myself "Fuck it! I'm going to take all those notes that I havn't and get a good grade!" I was up untill 3 in the morning taking notes on 5-6 chapters of astronomy. I get to school "You're notes arn't thorough enough" FUUUUUUUUU. I try to stay up-beat about everything and throw on a fake smile because I want my friends and family to feel good.
I feel like a fucking clown that, in between making people laugh, sits around alone feeling like shit and waiting to either get wasted with friends or see my therapist. I've been waiting to see my doctor again because I really need to seek help for depression and anxiety instead of ADD/lack of energy.
Thing that sucks is with graduating and going to college in the near future, I feel like shit because I don't have the energy/drive to do my best and I don't want to waste my parent's money.

 

[Matt]

It's porn superstar Jada Fire, and she's ejaculating.

Jada Fire is awesome.

By the way, one of the things most recently to make me say the above is, a kid in my boys Cub Scouts, age 9, is struggling for his life right now (they've already started collecting funds to cover his funeral is how grim it is).

Constant pain (on morphine), countless transfusions, bone marrow transplant, because of the meds he has bloated up big time (was a stick thin kid before), almost completely blind now, can't walk on his own - THIS boy, and a lot more than we'd be comfortable knowing about, are the ones who really have struggles in life. Most of the stuff us on here are going through, it's fixable, it's changeable. For kids/people like the 9 year old boy, he wishes he had problems like us, you know?

My friend's mom is in a similar situation, except she has type 1 diabetes.

 

[DarkBliss]

I, in this particular case, am battling with cancer, and i have seen over hundreds of kids in the hospital like me. I know a 1 year old baby, who is blind, and has skin cancer. It's terrible to witness newborns like that. You can only pray to God to heal them.

Mate, this is horrible. I had no idea.I hope you get well.